Validation is the best time to return detailed diagnostics
to the user since we're much more likely to have source
location information, etc than we are in later operations.
This change doesn't actually add any detail to the messages
yet, but it changes the interface so that we can gradually
introduce more detailed diagnostics over time.
While here there are some minor adjustments to some of the
messages to improve their consistency with terminology we
use elsewhere.
When testing destroy, the test harness calls Refresh followed by Plan,
with the expectation that the resulting diff will be empty.
Data resources challenge this expectation, because they will always be
instantiated during refresh if their configuration isn't computed, and so
the subsequent diff will want to destroy what was instantiated.
To work around this, we make an exception that data resource destroy
diffs may appear in the plan but nothing else.
This fixes#6713.